SelfCoaching How to Heal Anxiety and Depression
A groundbreaking, fast-paced, action-oriented new training program for dealing with mild to moderate anxiety and depression, Self-Coaching is a dramatic and fresh departure from traditional therapeutic approaches and a motivational training program. –Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., New York Times bestselling author of Making Peace with Your Past and Healing Anxiety Naturally
An excellent contribution to the self-help literature, Self-Coaching provides the reader with powerful tools to heal anxiety and depression. Dr. Luciani’s message is clear and important: You can be your own coach and take charge of your life. If you really want to help yourself, buy this book and use it.–Sam Menahem, Ph.D., author of When Therapy Isn’t Enough
A Powerful New Program to Beat Anxiety and Depression
You can feel better, starting right now! Whether you’re anxious or depressed, this innovative book will teach you how to change your way of thinking and improve your life. Using the revolutionary concept of Self-coaching, you’ll follow simple steps that will help you overcome the thought patterns that lead to anxiety and depression. As you achieve a positive outlook, you’ll learn how to maintain balance, clarity, and spontaneity each and every day at home, at work, and in all your relationships.
Self-Coaching will inspire, motivate, and liberate you. Dr. Luciani’s approach has been proven time and again by his patients. And now he can help you too! Self-Coaching will show you how to:
- Develop a fresh way of thinking, leading to a healthy, adaptive way of living
- Follow winning strategies so you can accomplish what you want in life
- Use the self-talk technique to coach yourself back to health
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R. K. King on Thu, 3rd Sep 2009 9:51 am
everyday practical help – self coaching
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
Suffering from severe depression is immobilizing, and only you can tell what you really need. The important thing is to get help and address it – just hoping for it to get better is a dangerous game. For me the thinking with this book was that it wouldn’t hurt to try. I find the book’s emphasis on the present versus what happened long ago helpful, but others may want to work through some old things. It has a definite focus on now, getting through the day, and living through some rough and debilitating emotional strongholds. Personally I prefer the down to earth and occasionally in your face tone to some of the “softer” depression books I’ve read. Having very practical and well-outlined tools to confront my depression/anxiety has been beneficial to me – and I also like the way the author reframes emotion based on context (anger, wanting to control, etc) to help the reader understand the roots of the negative feelings. Overall, really great book – main improvement would be having spiritual and Biblical helps as well.
Booklady on Fri, 4th Sep 2009 5:30 am
Wonderful Book
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
My best friend has been very depressed for a long time. I saw this book one night at the mall and picked it up for her. I had completely forgotten about it, when last night she called to thank me (and Self-Coaching) for changing her life. Just wanted to let people know how powerful this book is
Mother/wife/CONSUMER! on Fri, 4th Sep 2009 8:54 am
LOGICAL and Basic! Very helpful!
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
This book is for anyone tired of feeling like a victim of their own thoughts. After reading this book I was able to immediately incorporate his techniques successfully. For example, I had a class that always makes gives me anxiety so when I was in class and feeling awful, I looked at the clock and said to myself, “2 more hours. I can handle anything for 2 hours.” After that I was fine! It’s not just about telling yourself positive things that may be untrue or simply unhelpful, it’s about separating fact from fiction. It was true I hated the class, but it was also true that I could handle it for 2 hours. Once you separate fact from fiction you begin to see how your self doubt doesn’t need to have the upper hand. You can choose to stop feeling insecure and start LIVING. Negative thoughts stop us from action and freedom from these thought allows us to LIVE. I also recommend the book Dancing with Fear by Foxman, very good and very helpful, but if you want something more pragmatic – buy Luciani’s book.
L. Clark on Mon, 7th Sep 2009 4:31 am
Some good advice, not sensitive.
Rating:2 out of 5 stars
This is the first Amazon review I have been inspired to write. While some of the exercises in this book are helpful, and the author’s general idea is fairly accurate and well-intended, the lump sum of this book, I do not feel, is something that will resonate particularly well for an actually depressed person.
The idea the depression is “self-generated” is a loaded statement from the beginning, since depressives are so inclined to blame themselves from the get-go. That isn’t to say that negative thinking patterns don’t perpetuate depression, because they do. But I very strongly feel this book grossly oversimplifies, and completely glosses over the nuances and sensitivities of the actual REAL LIFE people who might be reading this book.
An obvious road-block is that depressed people are probably too tired to get up and “coach” themselves — AKA, get up and yell at themselves to “get motivated”, as the author suggests. The last thing people with depression should here is “just get it together” or “just get up and do it.” Yes, getting better takes work, but I don’t think this book is the greatest place to start.
Another alarm bell is the fact that the book is praised on the back cover by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, a crazy right-wing “therapist” with a terrible and generally insensitive talk-show.
Also, at some point in this book all the labels he makes up for specific personality types get so irritating and over-the-top, I felt like I couldn’t keep track of what he was even talking about. Also, indentifying the depressive or anxiety-ridden character as the “insecure child” I feel also pushes in the direction of self-blame — as if it is somehow our own fault for not growing out of our insecurities. He’s right to identify depression and anxiety as something outside the natural self, but he’s sort of missing the mark. Again, oversimplification, and insensitivity.
The book I would recommend as an alternative, both brilliant, practical, and sensitive, is “Undoing Depression” by Richard O’Connor. Thanks.
Todd H. Rogers on Tue, 8th Sep 2009 8:34 pm
Helps w/ the issues (and much more)
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
It’s been about 3-4 years since I read this book. I was in a dark period after a family tragedy. I’m a very well adjusted and happy adult and this book is a big part of it.
Revolutionary? No. It’s just a simple way to re-engineer self-image. What Dr. Joe advocates is 1. disrupt the negative self-talk (all depression patients know about the neg. self talk). 2. replace the negative “ST” with positive “ST.” 3. practice this habit over and over until it becomes routine (perhaps the most challenging part). 4. After doing this exercise for about 6-12 months, suddenly you discover that this activity becomes habit, and you then pleasantly discover that your self image is constantly positive and you feel much-much better.
Then, you start to apply this technique to other parts of your life, and, if you’re like me, you realize that all that stuff the dali lama preaches is real: you really do have control over your life!
This book requires steady work-hard work which, if practiced, becomes easy with time. Hang in there folks! Stick to the plan and you will find your way out of the dark hole!
Who else do I recommend? Check out Tal Ben-Shahar’s books. He’s another positive psychologist. Good stuff.
Dennischinchar on Wed, 9th Sep 2009 4:19 pm
changed my way
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
By ordering self coaching ,that was one of the best small Investments that I made in a long time. I was totaly lost with in my self about
Everything. By reading this Book It has helped me understand why I was
thinking the way I was. If I did not read this book I would still be
my miserable self with no Direction to happiness in life.
I very strongly reccomend the small purchase price for this Book.
dennis
Joe Stein on Thu, 10th Sep 2009 9:56 pm
Changed My Life
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
Dr. Luciani’s insightful and easy to understand style has changed my life. The user friendly format helps one understand the symptoms of anxiety and depression and gives the reader the tools neccesary to effectively deal with those destructive processes. The book is a masterpiece!
S. Buren on Fri, 11th Sep 2009 3:47 am
Self-Coaching – Practical and Effective
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
I read this book trying to understand some of the reasons I have so much fear in certain situations and, hopefully to overcome it. Did it work? Well, yes and no.
I read something profound in this book that told me I was the producer of anxiety. That it wasn’t an illness that came and attacked me as a virus does, but that I generate it with my thoughts, which in turns produces imbalanced chemistry within my system. This clicked with me on so many levels and just knowing that helped me. It gave me encouragement.
There were some other really great insights in this book also. It’s very well written and gives the reader a lot of hope that better days will come if you try hard enough. And I believe Dr. Luciani when he says it.
However, I am uncertain that there is a true “heart” to this book. If I had to summarize the main point of this book it would be this: You have the power to talk yourself and motivate yourself out of anxiety with the right thought patterns. Is the advice deep enough for a real meaningful change? I think it has the potential to be. Automatic negative thoughts are a huge problem for those of insecurity an low self-confidence, so the advice really is effective here.
Is this book helpful to those who are struggling with anxiety and depression? I would say emphatically “yes” and you should really read it. There is only good to be gotten from it. Will it be the ultimate solution to abolishing your severe anxiety/depression? I doubt it. But it could a great stepping stone to doing so.
I would give this book three and a half stars if I could – but since it only lets me use whole stars, I will tip the scale over to four. My summation of the book is this: It really is a worthwhile read with some effective advice.
Karen Karnopp on Fri, 11th Sep 2009 12:56 pm
Great For Anyone
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I bought this for someone who has anxiety and depression but unfortunately this person refuses to read it. So I did. I was amazed at how much I learned about how and why I react to situations and how not get so upset. I really enjoyed reading this and I could apply the reactions in the book to people i know as well as to myself. Now when they get upset and take things out I me, I don’t take it as personal unless it is my fault. I then change my reaction for the better. My daughter asked if she could read it so I just sent it to her. It is basically what the title implies “SELF COACHING” but it can be for ANYONE. I just might be able to help the person who won’t read it.
A. Sirdofsky on Fri, 11th Sep 2009 8:53 pm
Tools for battling depression and anxiety
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
An excellent source for dismantling anxiety and depression. Makes you
feel you’re not crazy and not alone….with trust and perseverence there’s
help and hope!
V. Torre on Sun, 13th Sep 2009 3:08 pm
Thank you Dr. Luciani !!
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
Thank you Dr. Luciani….you have removed any doubt I once felt about the effectiveness of “self-help” books. After following a friend’s recommendation, I purchased your book, SELF-COACHING: THE POWERFUL PROGRAM TO BEAT ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION. To my immense relief, your program provided the answers and insights into feelings that I thought could never be overcome. I highly recommend this excellent book!!
Lisa D. Harvey on Sun, 13th Sep 2009 9:11 pm
Very Helpful
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I have been suffering from anxiety attacks for four years. This book put the causes into perspective. I found instant relief using the techniques.
Jerry Saperstein on Thu, 17th Sep 2009 3:10 am
A remarkable self-help book
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I am not sure of how I came across this book, though I think it was an Amazon recommendation. It is indeed fascinating and I think a worthwhile read for anyone. It is premised upon the author’s contention that “. . . anxiety and depression are merely habits–and all habits can be broken”. In fact, Joseph J. Luciani’s suggestions and program could be effectively applied to any life situation from anxiety and depression to improving your golf swing.
While Luciani’s approach, at first blush, seems to have a lot in common with Albert Ellis’s “cognitive therapy”, it is significiantly different. Luciani is really much more oriented toward self-delivered life coaching through what he dubs “self-talk”.
On its face, the approach is logical and, in fact, what most of us do normally when we feel in control of the situation. Luciani’s point is that it is in those situations where we don’t feel in control that self-talk is most important – and, frankly, he seems to have a point.
Luciani is certainly devoted to what he believes. He maintains a web site in support of the book where he freely dispenses advice (with appropriate disclaimers), but without trying to sell anything. Quite a guy and a very different approach to self-promotion.
Depressed, anxious or not, this is a very interesting book and worthy of your attention.
Jerry
Paula Kaplan on Thu, 17th Sep 2009 3:36 am
Filled with wisdom.
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I found this book to be filled with wisdom and strategies to help achieve and maintain a healthy life. This is a book I refer back to. It helps to keep me focused on my positive self. Thank you Dr. Luciani for writing this book which makes beating anxiety and depression very manageable.
Brian Moore on Thu, 17th Sep 2009 4:29 am
Time in!
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
This book is the most motivational tool for motivation in my playbook. Just yesterday, in fact, I screamed at myself that I’m a “f**kin’ p*ssy,” then dropped and gave myself 50.
D.G. on Fri, 18th Sep 2009 1:42 am
Very Good
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
I realized after reading this book how much power our thoughts have over our feelings. It is not easy but we do have the ability to change our negative thought patterns, and by doing that we can help to relieve anxiety and depression.
Dale E. Faiello on Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 7:35 pm
Changed what I had believed
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
I always thought feelings come first, then thoughts. After reading this book, I learned that thoughts come before feelings. Past insecurity along with habit continues the negative, untrue thinking process. Understanding this, you can change how you think, which affects how you feel. There are questions in the book to find out your personality type. This book is similar to the “Feeling Good” by David Burns, philosophy, but worth reading.
Alan Gettis on Thu, 24th Sep 2009 7:23 am
The Best Self-Help Book For Beating Anxiety & Depression
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
Not only is this book brilliant – it works. It is a no nonsense approach that explains what causes anxiety and depression, and what you can do about them. The book takes the proverbial bull by the proverbial horns.
Dr. Luciani is the master authority on “Self-Coaching” and “Self-Talk.”
There is no ambiguity here. He teaches you exactly what you need to know and do. This is a very organized and powerful program that will enable you to finally take charge of your emotions and your life. A must read for anyone struggling with anxiety or depression.
Frank on Thu, 24th Sep 2009 8:02 pm
This book is awful.
Rating:1 out of 5 stars
I did not like this book at all. I thought it was very negative in its attitude towards people who are depressed. It seemed to make light of the subject and act like if you just think positively everything will be great. If you just need to improve your self-esteem a little bit, this might help. However, if you are trying to recover from any kind of significant battle with depression or anxiety, I recommend Undoing Depression by Richard O’Connor.
Kevin NY on Fri, 25th Sep 2009 9:39 am
Changed my life and will change yours too!
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
This book will change your life. I can’t describe in words what this book means to me. After suffering from anxiety and depression for almost 5 years now, reading this book has made me feel like a new person. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to beat their anxiety and depression too.
Maryann Maisano on Fri, 25th Sep 2009 3:50 pm
Understand the Why’s & stop what if’ing !!
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
This book has indeed changed and enhanced my life !! I remember one day feeling particularly axcious and I read a highlighted section that I had bookmarked and found myself in a more relaxed frame of mind.
I find Dr Joe’s philosophy on coaching and self talk the BEST approach to dealing with “Life’s Baggage” and finally learning how to unpack !!!
Stacey Mclean on Sat, 26th Sep 2009 5:56 am
Great book!
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I haven’t finished this book yet but it is basic enough to incorporate into your life to help you get through your depression and anxiety.
I have been depressed since the age of 19 and I’m now 36 so I am excited to see how much it can help me in the long run.
Jason P. Carney on Sun, 27th Sep 2009 8:14 am
Broken Record.
Rating:1 out of 5 stars
this book is pretty much all filler. the “Dr” that wrote it seems to like to repeat things over and over. the techniques are garbage… period. the book is basically about talking to yourself repeatedly till you forget your problems. what is that? the book should be called “Sweep your problems under a rug”. got news for ya folks… life sucks sometimes and the last thing ya wanna do is dismiss problems. you gotta face them head on and just deal with the pain… it WILL pass, and if you cant and you become suicidal… books are not going to help, real doctors will.
Donna K. Friel on Fri, 2nd Oct 2009 2:19 pm
even better book
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
this book is great. it really puts things into prespective. if give a lot of definitions an backgroud information. It offers a lot of clarity and helps one tackle the life challenging problems of anxiety and depression. i strongly recommend this book
Irish Eyes on Sun, 4th Oct 2009 7:27 pm
Self-Coaching method helped us
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
THis book helped us understand what is happening with our 13 year old daughter and how to help her. It’s been a long process but having this book has given us encouragement, patience and positive steps so that she can move ahead in her life.
Barbara Dierdorff on Mon, 5th Oct 2009 12:34 am
Self Coaching
Rating:3 out of 5 stars
To be honest this wasn’t a book that I could get into. I returned it after scanning it.
Tina on Tue, 6th Oct 2009 4:41 am
Great ideas for someone with general anxiety.
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
I have social phobia and I’ve been on a hunt for the past few years for a natural treatment. I’ve tried herbs and supplements and nothing has worked. The last straw came when the supposed miracle supplement for anxiety-sufferers (magnesium) did nothing for me. Having read this book once before and not thinking anything of it, I decided I had no choice so I reread the book. I’ve learned that although the ideas in this book are great aids, they just won’t work for someone in my position.
Self-coaching is simple. You’ve lived for years with negative thoughts that cause your anxiety. All you have to do is change them. First, you must seperate your thoughts into fact or fiction. Most often, you’ll find that your anxious thoughts are silly. Then you must change your thoughts into something positive. This will change your mood completely. People with anxiety problems live in their mind rather than living in the moment. They process and think and process and think until their anxiety becomes hellish.
Self-coaching will and does work. Some may find it hard to believe but if you truly think about it, your anxiety is all in your mind. If you’re having an anxious thought and you put on some music and sing along, you eventually lose that anxious thought because you’re living in the moment. People with general anxiety will find the ideas in this book to be helpful.
Unfortunately, for someone like me who gets anxious “in the moment”, self-coaching will not work. I get extremely anxious around other people. Whereas self-coaching may help when you’re walking through a busy mall or anticipating a public speech, it doesn’t work when, say, someone comes up to you and begins talking to you. Self-coaching does help when you’re anticipating something anxious but it certainly doesn’t work when something anxiety-worthy comes out of the blue.
I will use self-coaching in addition to medication. I do think this book is well written, motivating, and easy to understand but, unfortunately, it won’t work for everyone.
Robert J. Kirschbaum on Sun, 11th Oct 2009 10:59 am
Great addition to an excellent series of books
Rating:4 out of 5 stars
This book as well as Dr. Luciani’s others have been great resources for me to understand my thoughts and get my anxiety and depression under control. It incorporates and elaborates on the other material from the previous books, as well as adding even more. Great book.
Jane Rafal on Mon, 12th Oct 2009 3:00 pm
Dr. Joe Luciani has written another winner
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I have worked with Dr. Luciani as his editor for ten years, and the experience has been highly rewarding for me. During that time, his writing has steadily become highly polished and skilled. But most important for me, I have benefited personally from the books he has published. It is a gift to work with a writer whose subject matter is so important for so many people. Although I am not depressed, I do have occasional anxious moments–who doesn’t, living in today’s world?–and Self-Coaching has been a wonderful tool to handle them.
This book offers a straight-forward, proven, and pragmatic tool for anyone suffering from anxiety or depression. Highly recommended.
Djecomputer on Mon, 12th Oct 2009 8:40 pm
My life is never the same
Rating:5 out of 5 stars
I suffered from Generalized Anxiety Disorder (”the worry disease”) with underlying depression which fuels the worry because i was convinced that I couldn’t handle life if something bad happened. Everyone has an internal dialogue going on in their head all day long and the reason why people are anxious or depressed is they have thoughts about something scary or sad all day long. This book shows what fuels those thoughts (insecurity and eroded self-trust) and how to change your child-reflex (how you react to situations that make you anxious and depressed) and this isn’t written by someone who just got out of college. Dr. Luciani has had years of experience and knows what he is talking about. And if you don’t understand something he is more than happy to answer your questions personally in his “Ask Dr. Joe” forum on his website http://www.self-coaching.net